Where did the design for the Loser Line come from?

I've been asked this question many times..."why the loser line?" The question seems to answer itself with a certain clientele.

Sure, I have some that like to be "spoilers" (gift givers, tributes etc), I have some that like financial Domination/Ruination, I have SOME that like to be made fun of, tease and denial, ruined orgasms etc.

One sound of my wicked laugh and callers get hooked!

Are the "good" kind of loser?

Cum find out!

Communication is key

You'd think you didn't have to tell people this! But: from the Daily Flogger:

WACO, TEXAS

A local Texas dominant man has decided to pursue “communication” in an effort to save his failing relationship.

James Franks, 38, says his relationship started to take turn for the worse last month when he started having problems at work and started spending more time at the office. He was returning home from work “tired” and found himself increasingly irritable.

When slave tabitha approached him to find out what was wrong the answer was always the same: “I don’t want to talk about it.”

“It left me feeling confused and shut out. I don’t need to know every little detail, but I do need to know what he is feeling and how things are affecting him,” she told The Daily Flogger.

Franks told the slave, “Jesus? Really? I work 12 hours a day and when I come home you want to talk my fucking ear off about how my day was?”

Things came to a head when slave tabitha offered an ultimatum, “Talk to me or I am leaving.”

It was at that point Franks thought there may be a problem.

Franks conceded and now makes sure to spend some time each day talking about how things “make him feel” and “telling his slave what he is thinking about things.”

“It’s weird,” Franks told us, “she just wants to hear things, but she rarely has any concrete suggestions or solutions to problems, she just wants to know what is going on. Then she tells me her problems and I tell her how to fix them.”

Slave tabitha considers that progress. “It is nice that he can finally tell me know he feels. We’re working on the listening part, but progress is progress, right?”

Did you know that there was Kink B&B's ?? Kincation!

http://kinky.com/plan-your-kinkcation-today/ I found it interesting that you can go, stay at a quality bed and breakfast: kink included. Whether you're a "beginner" or for the newlyweds that are a bit kinky...or a getaway...whatever...

I for one was gobsmacked...

and...I'll be staying here: http://www.eroticroomandboard.com/



More pics here: http://www.eroticroomandboard.com/image/68543742.jpg

So, next vacation, if you can't make it to MY dungeon...or a dungeon in general...think about a kinky b&b!

Munches, what are they? BDSM 101

Here's a great resource for finding munches in your area:
http://bdsm-101.com/Munches.html

A munch (derived from "burger munch") is a casual social gathering for people involved in or interested in BDSM. Munches often take place at a restaurant, bar, or coffee shop; the organizer usually reserving a large table, a back area, or a private room. People are free to arrive and leave within the specified hours. The primary purpose is socializing, although some munches also have announcements or demonstrations from local organizations or individuals. Munches are meant to help those who are curious about BDSM meet others, become more comfortable, and better informed. Munches can also be a place to get advice, or pass on anecdotes about BDSM experiences.

More recently, munches dedicated to people into polyamory have sprung up around the U.S. They function much the same as BDSM munches, with perhaps more focus on talking about poly relationships. Some come with food, and there are now some "Liquid Munches" that are held, usually early enough for conversation to be possible, in bars.

Unlike a play party, most munches are informal affairs that discourage fetish attire or BDSM play.[citation needed] However some munches may be held as a get-together prior to a more formal play party, or other groups may be open to the wearing of collars or pride emblems; as such, covert Master/slave interactions, fetish dress, or other BDSM play maybe observed.

Munches have changed with time and with increasing social acceptability of BDSM and fetish lifestyles. Many have expanded to include more people, topics and philosophies.[citation needed] Some munches may have a specific focus, such as spirituality, or whips. Others may be restricted to a specific group; such as women, or submissives. Munches can be very specific to their region, city, or neighbourhood, and regional groups will often host member's only meetings. Each munch is different and reflects the personality of the group that attends it.

Many munch organizers post their event information on social networking sites, some may use e-mail or mailing lists. Local BDSM groups may announce a munch in-person at a meeting, on a community calendar or newsletter, or on their own websites.

*taken from Wikipedia*

Likeminded individuals--you'd be surprised. In the meantime, I've got a RT to Virtual experience on NF that would be of interest to newcomers to the lifestyle. This isn't a game, this isn't "for shits and giggles" it's a LIFESTYLE.

Control...

Free writing this, so bear with me. I chose the name Kami Controls You for a reason. It's pretty simple really. During the day, the decisions fall on you don't they? All day people are asking for your opinion, support, decisions etc. Sometimes even at home, you're expected to be the head of the household, to make judgement calls, handle situations and all day -- it's on YOU do make it happen.

That's where submitting, to give over power, even if only for a while--can be such a release. Subspace is a brilliant floaty feeling, a high if you will, where you can let go. I'd encourage you to try it -- if you're one of those guys where the day to day pressure has to drained at the end of the day.

Give up that power -- for a while.

Nearly all of my callers will attest to the fact that they feel relieved, mentally, physically and spiritually after giving up control.

Definition - What does Total Power Exchange (TPE) mean?

Total power exchange (TPE) is a relationship dynamic that occurs in a BDSM relationship where the dominant partner has total power over the submissive in everything. TPE always applies in sexual situations, but generally also refers to the dominant having power over all other elements of the submissive's life.
TPE is a turn-on for a lot of people because of the level of trust involved. The submissive essentially gives their life away to the dominant. This is also a huge responsibility for the dominant and should not be taken lightly.

TPE can be used in day-to-day activities, or it can be used for just a few hours during play to spice things up. This type of play is not about micromanaging a person's life; it’s about a submissive giving complete trust to the dominant partner and believing that he or she will have the submissive's best interests and pleasure in mind. What can be so hard to understand is that the submissive actually control. That's because in sane, respectful D/s relationship the submissive can stop the play at any time. It's all about the submissive being able to give up control and the dominant being able to exert control in a safe, consensual way.

I just made this guided Masturbation goody bag, check it out: