Showing posts with label Dominatrix. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Dominatrix. Show all posts

Friday, August 14, 2015

A great find!

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Monday, August 10, 2015

What is a fetish? Do you have a fetish?

What Is a Sexual Fetish?
Sexual fetish describes people who are aroused by unusual parts of the body, activities, or objects that are generally not associated with conventional sex. The fetish is strong and is deep seated in the sub conscious mind. People can have sex without actually participating in the fetish activity. However, 99 per cent of people with a fetish are like Susan. They cannot have an orgasm unless they think about the fetish at the moment of explosion.

There are all kinds of sexual fetishes. Sexuality is something that is as unique as each individual. Some people fixate on parts of the body: shoes, feet, legs, bottoms, hair or armpits. Others enjoy acting out certain kinds of scenarios including Dominant/submissive role-playing, spanking, bondage, cross-dressing and trampling. Still others find certain articles of clothing or fabric stimulating such as leather, latex, rubber and even angora sweaters. The acts and scenarios attached to these fetishes are many and variable.

People With Fetishes Are Ashamed
It's no wonder. Our society labels anything sexually different as deviant or perverted. These labels hurt deeply to those whose sexual make-up is out of the norm. Fetishists feel weird, ashamed and guilty for their desires. While the fetish provides pleasure and relief, all these people have feelings of shame about being sexually different.

Fetishists are afraid of sharing their secret with a lover. They fear rejection, ridicule or abandonment. Unfortunately their fears are not unfounded. Oftentimes, people who disclose to their wives or husbands wish they hadn't. Their partners react with shock or embarrassment promoting even more feels of shame and regret.

The general public is uneducated about sexuality out of the norm. Most people (even in this day and age) resort to perfunctory sex. We are not schooled in the joys of playing and acting out fantasies. Fetishes often require special costuming, effects, verbiage and creativity. We are not trained to indulge in sexual desires. We just don't understand.

People with a fetish generally think they are the only one. It's a secret that they carry to the grave or possibly a paid professional (prostitute or Dominatrix). Sexual fetish is a misunderstood confusing topic. Why can't my partner or I just enjoy and experience sex in the moment? Is it abnormal to have strong sexual feelings or thoughts, which I can't control? Is there a 'cure' for fetish? Is it OK to act on the fetish?

Where Does The Fetish Come From?
There's no definitive answer as to why someone is or isn't precluded to having a fetish. Most remember having some kind of early childhood memory connected to the fetish.

Fear, excitement, curiosity, pleasure are powerful emotions that are felt in the body. The body remembers the charge physiologically and for some of us those moments become eroticized on a subconscious level. Even scary childhood moments. We protected ourselves by sexualizing the powerful feelings. Generally the feelings lay dormant until we become sexually active. Then out of nowhere, we connect our original moment of excitement and experience to a powerful erotic charge. This feeling is so strong that our sexuality is linked to that early sexual/excitement/fear moment.

For example, someone who likes spanking might have heard someone else get a spanked or they were spanked themselves. While the event wasn't necessarily enjoyable at the time, it made great impact. It was charged moment that later became sexualized. How does that happen? Spanking is done behind closed doors, undergarments are taken down and there is a certain degree of intimacy about the act. Hence, powerful emotions are evoked.

These powerful emotions linked to the fetish are stored in the subconscious mind. They are connected to a part of our brain that produces sexual stimulation. When puberty strikes these thoughts and feelings may re-emerge. Before we realize what's happening we are associating our childhood fear/excitement to adult sexual feelings.

Do You Have A Sexual Fetish?
Chances are good that if you were attracted to this article you have a sexual fetish or a penchant for sexuality out of the norm. You may or may not have told anyone or acted upon it. Perhaps you have see professional women who specialize in exotic forms of adult entertainment. The visits to these adult workers are satisfying in the moment but ultimately leave you feeling alone and ashamed.

You may have shared your secret desire with your significant other only to be shunned and rejected. People who have sexual fetishes are often left feeling very alone. It's just not something we feel comfortable bringing up with a friend over lunch. It's even hard to tell a therapist we've seen for ages.

Taken from here: http://www.therapywithcare.com/Article_Fetish.html

Do you have a fetish you'd like to explore?

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Sunday, July 5, 2015

Did you know that there was Kink B&B's ?? Kincation!

http://kinky.com/plan-your-kinkcation-today/ I found it interesting that you can go, stay at a quality bed and breakfast: kink included. Whether you're a "beginner" or for the newlyweds that are a bit kinky...or a getaway...whatever...

I for one was gobsmacked...

and...I'll be staying here: http://www.eroticroomandboard.com/



More pics here: http://www.eroticroomandboard.com/image/68543742.jpg

So, next vacation, if you can't make it to MY dungeon...or a dungeon in general...think about a kinky b&b!

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Thursday, May 21, 2015

Munches, what are they? BDSM 101

Here's a great resource for finding munches in your area:
http://bdsm-101.com/Munches.html

A munch (derived from "burger munch") is a casual social gathering for people involved in or interested in BDSM. Munches often take place at a restaurant, bar, or coffee shop; the organizer usually reserving a large table, a back area, or a private room. People are free to arrive and leave within the specified hours. The primary purpose is socializing, although some munches also have announcements or demonstrations from local organizations or individuals. Munches are meant to help those who are curious about BDSM meet others, become more comfortable, and better informed. Munches can also be a place to get advice, or pass on anecdotes about BDSM experiences.

More recently, munches dedicated to people into polyamory have sprung up around the U.S. They function much the same as BDSM munches, with perhaps more focus on talking about poly relationships. Some come with food, and there are now some "Liquid Munches" that are held, usually early enough for conversation to be possible, in bars.

Unlike a play party, most munches are informal affairs that discourage fetish attire or BDSM play.[citation needed] However some munches may be held as a get-together prior to a more formal play party, or other groups may be open to the wearing of collars or pride emblems; as such, covert Master/slave interactions, fetish dress, or other BDSM play maybe observed.

Munches have changed with time and with increasing social acceptability of BDSM and fetish lifestyles. Many have expanded to include more people, topics and philosophies.[citation needed] Some munches may have a specific focus, such as spirituality, or whips. Others may be restricted to a specific group; such as women, or submissives. Munches can be very specific to their region, city, or neighbourhood, and regional groups will often host member's only meetings. Each munch is different and reflects the personality of the group that attends it.

Many munch organizers post their event information on social networking sites, some may use e-mail or mailing lists. Local BDSM groups may announce a munch in-person at a meeting, on a community calendar or newsletter, or on their own websites.

*taken from Wikipedia*

Likeminded individuals--you'd be surprised. In the meantime, I've got a RT to Virtual experience on NF that would be of interest to newcomers to the lifestyle. This isn't a game, this isn't "for shits and giggles" it's a LIFESTYLE.

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Sunday, November 23, 2014

Bizarre Fetishes -- the more you know and NO JUDGEMENT

10 Of The Most Bizarre Fetishes

From here: http://www.blokebuddy.com/2010/humour/10-of-the-most-bizarre-fetishes/

”I think most of us men are guilty of experimenting with some sort of fetish, indulging in a bit of roleplay? maybe being tied up and spanked? or perhaps partaking in a bit of necrophilia? (hopefully not) but if you dig deep enough the Internet can reveal some of the most bizarre and genuine fetishes that people actually enjoy. Here is a list of 10 fetishes that are weirder than your grandad wearing Reebok’s.

1. Symphorophilia Kicking off the list is the fetish called Symphorophilia which means that a person gets sexually aroused by natural disasters, so if your wondering why you felt the urge to reach for the Kleenex when the Haiti earthquake came on the news, This is why.

2. Klismaphilia This fetish means a person gets sexual gratification through receiving an enema, I fail to see the attraction myself but just be wary if your mate is overly enthusiastic about having one.

3. Hemotigolagnia A Hemotigolagniac is someone who gets turned on by ’sanitary pads’ Either used or not, watch out for the dude ramming allways ultra into a shopping trolley whilst dribbling.

4. Harpaxophilia A Harpaxophiliac gets heavily aroused at the thought of being burgled, this makes me wonder what is wrong with the human race, someone getting their rocks whilst having there Xbox nicked is ludicrous, and I can imagine quite unpleasant for the burglar too!

5. Nasolingus Picking my your nose and flicking it is a pretty fun past time for many men, but do this around someone with Nasolingus (someone who is aroused by bogeys) you could find yourself in an uncomfortable situation.

6. Parthenophagy This one is a bit dark, a person with this fetish gets turned on by the thought of eating (not eating out) young girls or virgins, so any virgins should get laid now in case you end up in a stew.

7. Tripsolagnia A person with this fetish gets sexual pleasure from having there hair shampooed, step away from the Timotei!

8. Avisodomy Someone who gets sexual gratification from having sex with birds, no wonder Bill Oddie is always smiling, dirty bastard.

9. Catheterophilia I have no idea why but a person with this fetish gets turned on by ‘catheters’ what they actually do with a catheter to get sexual pleasure from it is a mystery.

10. Nosolagnia This is weird, a person that has this fetish gets ‘happy’ knowing there partner has a terminal illness….what is wrong with people, a box of tissues and the underwear section of a Kay’s catalogue is just not enough for some people!

Got a fetish? an idea of a roleplay?

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Monday, September 22, 2014

some basic definitions...

bdsm scene

BDSM is a variety of erotic practices involving dominance and submission, role-playing, restraint, and other interpersonal dynamics.

Mistress - a title for a female Dominant - "Mistress" is very commonly the title used for a professional Dominatrix, although not exclusively. Some lifestyle Dominant women might choose the title Mistress. There is, for some women, a negative connotation with this title - especially those of us who are a little older. In earlier times, in the vanilla world, "Mistress" was the name given to the illicit lover of a married man.

BDSM - Bondage & Discipline, Domination & Submission, Sadism & Masochism. A term which came into use in the 1990's, thanks to the internet.
SSC - Safe, Sane and Consensual
RACK - Risk Aware Consensual Kink
Subspace - a feeling of euphoria, similar to a morphine high, experienced by bottoms during an intense BDSM scene
Topspace - a feeling of being in "the zone" when in control of a BDSM scene - the Top may become oblivious to surroundings
Subdrop - an emotional state resulting from the disappearance of the exhilaration of Subspace - can be up to 3 days later
Topdrop - an emotional state resulting from the let down after an intense scene
Aftercare - the administration of nurturing care and emotional support to each other after a BDSM scene

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Monday, May 26, 2014

Keep Calm and Masturbate!

Before Masturbation month comes to a close:

(THE CHALLENGE)



Here are 5 reasons to take matters into your own hands right now. (You’re welcome.)
It prevents cancer.

A 2003 Australian study found that men who ejaculated more than five times a week were a third less likely to develop prostate cancer. Disease-causing toxins build up in your urogenital tract and when you rub one out, you flush the bad guys out of your system, says Brame.
It makes you harder.

As you age, you naturally lose muscle tone … even down there. Regular sex or masturbation works out your pelvic floor muscles to prevent erectile dysfunction and incontinence. “It keeps the angle of your dangle perky,” says Brame. Aim to (ahem) arrive 3 to 5 times a week for rock-solid results.
It helps you last longer.

Taking yourself to palm prom may help you stretch your sack sessions. “[Masturbating] an hour before a date will give you more control,” says Brame. Train yourself by timing how long it takes you to orgasm, suggests Ava Cadell, Ph.D., founder of loveologyuniversity.com. If it usually takes two minutes solo, try for three next time. Or count how many strokes you need to get to your happy place. If you’re spurting after 50, shoot for 60. “Most men can double the number of strokes and the time within one month,” Cadell says. Practice makes perfect, right?
It ups your immunity.

Ejaculation increases levels of the hormone cortisol, says Jennifer Landa, M.D., a specialist in hormone therapy. Cortisol, which usually gets a bad rap as a havoc-wrecking stress hormone, actually helps regulate and maintain your immunity in the small doses. “Masturbation can product the right environment for a strengthened immune system,” she says.
It boosts your mood.

Masturbating releases a slew of feel-good neurochemicals like dopamine and oxytocin that lift your spirits, boost your satisfaction, and activate the reward circuits in your brain. “An orgasm is the biggest non-drug blast of dopamine available,” says Brame. “A brain scan of someone having an orgasm looks like a heroin addict’s."

Friday, April 25, 2014

Want to go flying with me? I'll take you there...to subspace.

Subspace: Subspace happens in two different situations. There is the first scenario where a submissive physiologically is sent to subspace via impact play. Instead of safe wording, the submissive disconnects, the stress on the body too much and the hormones kick in. This means that the submissive steps out of his or her body and shuts out the experience as his or body fights the hurt with hormones and endorphins kicking in. The other scenario, the psychological is the good stuff. This is where you enter an altered state; one where you disconnect, only in a pleasant way. There is a strong draw to your Dominant. Not necessarily one of sexual arousal, though that may be a part. The first stage is tingly, floaty...warm... Often at this point the submissives start to goad/provoke a Dominant or say things that others may laugh at during the scene without realizing that they are doing so. It is very cute and is most often accompanied by giggles and snorts of derision. The next level goes deeper, where the ditzy feelings begin. Forgetting commands, looking spacey, intoxicated feelings; speaking slows if not stops and the submissive is reliant on the Dominant to monitor them. The final section is primal. Moaning, grunting, multiple orgasms (sometimes without touching), hypersensitivity to tactile and other forms of sensory input.... and being completely out of it. But then...the body drops from the high...and aftercare from your Dominant begins. Subspace is a warm and fuzzy place if you are safe with your dominant. You will find that once you experience it, the longing to experience it again will be something you will have to control. Let's go...I'm booking flights :) DJ
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Tuesday, March 19, 2013

Today I don't feel like doing anything...



If you're feelin' the same way, let's hang out...shop...chill...or conversate on whatever topic comes up. For example...Anonymous...the internet? V for Vendetta ties? Yep, this girl's onboard...

Remember, remember!

The fifth of November,
The Gunpowder treason and plot;
I know of no reason
Why the Gunpowder treason
Should ever be forgot!
Guy Fawkes and his companions
Did the scheme contrive,
To blow the King and Parliament
All up alive.
Threescore barrels, laid below,
To prove old England's overthrow.
But, by God's providence, him they catch,
With a dark lantern, lighting a match!
A stick and a stake
For King James's sake!
If you won't give me one,
I'll take two,
The better for me,
And the worse for you.
A rope, a rope, to hang the Pope,
A penn'orth of cheese to choke him,
A pint of beer to wash it down,
And a jolly good fire to burn him.
Holloa, boys! holloa, boys! make the bells ring!
Holloa, boys! holloa boys! God save the King!
Hip, hip, hooor-r-r-ray!

Yeah, ok it was overused because of V...but there is something to be said for the piece
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Wednesday, January 23, 2013

A challenge to us all....

Flirts and anyone who reads this. A challenge... to pay it forward... to give help/assistance where you can... to share if you have an abundance.... I was blessed enough to be allowed to help a beautiful woman that's in the industry...Therefore, I'm issuing the challenge for all who read this to "Pay it forward today" and do something for another.... Let it shine!

Thursday, December 27, 2012



Photo Hostess








Ok, who are we kidding? I am a nerd. If you enjoy talking to me, you are likely a nerd too. There's nothing wrong with that, in fact the way I see it...the brain is the largest sex organ.

It occurred to me over the past few days...after playing with a full time, real time...in it for a couple decades player...and we acquired some FANTASTIC photos...

rather than captioning them with something of a sexual nature...we referenced Capn Kirk (old school Trek ftw!) Obi Wan (fucking rebel scum!) and Anakin (awwww yeah! <3) but I digress...

If you are looking for something different, you've found it. If a conversation sparks and kindles your drive...I'm here.

Come to the Dark Side!
DJ

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A fun little game, ala burlesque:

Thursday, December 6, 2012

Cuckolding Phone Sex "Just keeping it real"

Humiliating and scolding sissy boys is my specialty. I get calls every other day from weak pencil dicks calling to tell me about their cheating slut wives. These are not sluty women or promiscuous wives, but they turn this way when they get BBC. I know first hand about this lifestyle because I’ve worked in clubs, casinos and bars that attracted these married slut women. High Class white, Black, Latino and Asian women.

I have seen so many married women coming around to find black bulls to satisfy them in ways their husbands never could. Most men believe that they have their household under control because they pay the mortgage and wear the pants. Remove the pants, and take away the job and the money. What do you have? A worthless weak piece of nothing.

I understand why these women come around searching for black men. They get married just to use their husbands and get a free ride to the good life. Is this fair? Yes, men usually marry a woman for her looks or her body. A trophy to cover up his insecurities. I don’t feel sorry for these men that have cheating wives. Most men have fantasized at one time or another of seeing their wives get fucked by other men. Especially men that are not well endowed in the cock area. This has become so popular on the internet because people usually want to be discrete. I know all about this. This is not the half. Wanna hear more? This is more than phone sex, this is the truth. call me at 1800 TO FLIRT ext. 9702633

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Tuesday, October 2, 2012

On formalities





Occasionally I get questions like, "What shall I call you? What does DJ stand for? Can I call you DJ?" etc. Honestly, as long as there is respect shown for who I am to you. I'm okay with any of the above. There are a few, a small handful, allowed to call me by my name.

That said, I have to laugh when those of us in the business get full of themselves with titles and the like. Look, we're all in the same business. But whether you're Master _____ or Mistress ____ or even if you call yourself Lord____ or Goddess______ I could give zero fucks about it.

We're in the same line of work.

That said...Yes, those of you that submit to me...It's Mistress DJ or Ma'am or even just Mistress. When not in scene, DJ is acceptable...clear enough? hehe.

That said, I've been having some delicious calls for my Masturbation Class. If you've not checked it out yet..you should.

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