What is a fetish? Do you have a fetish?

What Is a Sexual Fetish?
Sexual fetish describes people who are aroused by unusual parts of the body, activities, or objects that are generally not associated with conventional sex. The fetish is strong and is deep seated in the sub conscious mind. People can have sex without actually participating in the fetish activity. However, 99 per cent of people with a fetish are like Susan. They cannot have an orgasm unless they think about the fetish at the moment of explosion.

There are all kinds of sexual fetishes. Sexuality is something that is as unique as each individual. Some people fixate on parts of the body: shoes, feet, legs, bottoms, hair or armpits. Others enjoy acting out certain kinds of scenarios including Dominant/submissive role-playing, spanking, bondage, cross-dressing and trampling. Still others find certain articles of clothing or fabric stimulating such as leather, latex, rubber and even angora sweaters. The acts and scenarios attached to these fetishes are many and variable.

People With Fetishes Are Ashamed
It's no wonder. Our society labels anything sexually different as deviant or perverted. These labels hurt deeply to those whose sexual make-up is out of the norm. Fetishists feel weird, ashamed and guilty for their desires. While the fetish provides pleasure and relief, all these people have feelings of shame about being sexually different.

Fetishists are afraid of sharing their secret with a lover. They fear rejection, ridicule or abandonment. Unfortunately their fears are not unfounded. Oftentimes, people who disclose to their wives or husbands wish they hadn't. Their partners react with shock or embarrassment promoting even more feels of shame and regret.

The general public is uneducated about sexuality out of the norm. Most people (even in this day and age) resort to perfunctory sex. We are not schooled in the joys of playing and acting out fantasies. Fetishes often require special costuming, effects, verbiage and creativity. We are not trained to indulge in sexual desires. We just don't understand.

People with a fetish generally think they are the only one. It's a secret that they carry to the grave or possibly a paid professional (prostitute or Dominatrix). Sexual fetish is a misunderstood confusing topic. Why can't my partner or I just enjoy and experience sex in the moment? Is it abnormal to have strong sexual feelings or thoughts, which I can't control? Is there a 'cure' for fetish? Is it OK to act on the fetish?

Where Does The Fetish Come From?
There's no definitive answer as to why someone is or isn't precluded to having a fetish. Most remember having some kind of early childhood memory connected to the fetish.

Fear, excitement, curiosity, pleasure are powerful emotions that are felt in the body. The body remembers the charge physiologically and for some of us those moments become eroticized on a subconscious level. Even scary childhood moments. We protected ourselves by sexualizing the powerful feelings. Generally the feelings lay dormant until we become sexually active. Then out of nowhere, we connect our original moment of excitement and experience to a powerful erotic charge. This feeling is so strong that our sexuality is linked to that early sexual/excitement/fear moment.

For example, someone who likes spanking might have heard someone else get a spanked or they were spanked themselves. While the event wasn't necessarily enjoyable at the time, it made great impact. It was charged moment that later became sexualized. How does that happen? Spanking is done behind closed doors, undergarments are taken down and there is a certain degree of intimacy about the act. Hence, powerful emotions are evoked.

These powerful emotions linked to the fetish are stored in the subconscious mind. They are connected to a part of our brain that produces sexual stimulation. When puberty strikes these thoughts and feelings may re-emerge. Before we realize what's happening we are associating our childhood fear/excitement to adult sexual feelings.

Do You Have A Sexual Fetish?
Chances are good that if you were attracted to this article you have a sexual fetish or a penchant for sexuality out of the norm. You may or may not have told anyone or acted upon it. Perhaps you have see professional women who specialize in exotic forms of adult entertainment. The visits to these adult workers are satisfying in the moment but ultimately leave you feeling alone and ashamed.

You may have shared your secret desire with your significant other only to be shunned and rejected. People who have sexual fetishes are often left feeling very alone. It's just not something we feel comfortable bringing up with a friend over lunch. It's even hard to tell a therapist we've seen for ages.

Taken from here: http://www.therapywithcare.com/Article_Fetish.html

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Now Slave Donovan has to be prepared to answer questions from nosy neighbors that wanna know why is a 6ft 5 black man hanging around the house. He's already eating at their house every night and using his wife's ATM card when he needs to shop or pay bills. He also comes into their master bedroom and joins his wife in the shower while Slave Donovan has to listen to them have sex in the shower. So it's only right to let the black bull move in and turn their guest room into a man cave.

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My last phone sex call on Niteflirt was with a guy I've been talking to for a few years and he has a kinky shrinking fetish of being shrunken down to a half inch and dominated and controlled by a big goddess like myself. He likes for me to put him in my purse or in my bra and keep him under my spell. When I'm horny I sprinkle him with voodoo powder and turn him into an 8 inch dildo and ram him in my pussy. I push his entire shrunk body inside of my pussy head first.It's his fantasy. He gives me full control of him. I can use him anyway like turning him into my slave since he is too tiny to defend himself to a large goddess. I am a giant to him and he is turned on by my superior size. He worships my huge SSBBW body. He loves every curve and every pound of flawless fat flesh. He obeys me and does whatever I tell him to do. When I want more control I shrink him down to half inch and he cant do anything since I have full control and I hold his well being in my hand. He cums so hard when we talk about his shrinking/giantess fetish. 1800-TO-FLIRT 1-800-863-5478 ext: 9687333

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Fun Masturbation Game!!!

For this challenge you must continually masturbate for 60 minutes - even if stroking slowly, the hand that is stroking yourself must always keep moving. You are only allowed to cum after that 60 minutes has expired. Equipment - one clock that shows seconds, one object to insert up your anus (already lubed), one safe candle (lit the moment the game is started), a few glasses of cold water (each with an ice cube in to keep them cold) and a number of clothes pegs. To start the game, you must masturbate with your dominant hand. The first 5 minutes must be spent masturbating as quickly as possible. From then on you have control of the speed of masturbation and have the option of rolling the double dice whenever you want. However, rolling the dice is the only way to earn reprieves from masturbating which will allow you to hold off cumming until after the time limit. Whilst you perform the instructions below, assume you must continue masturbating unless told otherwise. 3- swap the hand you're masturbating with. 4- Masturbate as fast as you can for 120 seconds. 5- Stop masturbating and use both hands to play with your nipples for 30 seconds. Then resume masturbating with the same hand. 6- take off an item of clothing. If you have nothing left to take off, masturbate for 30 seconds standing at a window with the curtains open. 7- give yourself 10 fast strokes. 8- play with your balls or nipples for 60 seconds with your non-masturbating hand (whichever turns you on more). 9- Take a 60 second break from masturbation. 10- Cover your masturbating hand with spit and then resume masturbation. 11- Moan loudly as you masturbate for the next 60 seconds. If you roll doubles, then it's your unlucky day: double 1- Add 15 minutes to the 60 minute time limit. double 2- Insert the chosen object up your anus. Cannot remove until another double 2 is rolled. double 3- Douse your penis with one glass of cold water. If you run out of glasses, then treat this as a double 4 instead. double 4- Drip whatever candle wax has accumulated in the candle onto your left nipple. If double 4 is rolled a second time, drip it onto your right nipple. For each subsequent double 4 that is rolled, pour the wax onto your balls. double 5- Attach 2 clothes pegs to your balls. double 6- Subtract 15 minutes from the time limit. If you manage to last the full amount of time before you came, congrats! If you came before the full amount of time, you must eat whatever semen you produced and do this challenge every time you masturbate until you complete it. If you came before the 30 minute mark, you must do the same as above but the semen produced must be snorted. Best of luck.

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Corrupt Innocence Phone Sex

Corrupt Innocence Phone Sex is a naughty game I play with a Preacher from Virginia. I've turned my good boy into some what of a wicked man.

In his own words praying no longer helps him resist me. ~giggle~ He only wants to give in to my soft sensual temptation. He stands in front of the congregation and gets hard just thinking of the naughty ideas I've placed deep into his mind.

Panties? Well yes Preacher I said go buy them and do it today. Sex? No! Not again, not with your wife. We'll leave her in confusion twisted just as you are, as I laugh in your face. I love this game we play.

I'll use you as I see fit preacher, and leave you begging me for more. Always needing, never forgetting. I'm your Mistress and you are here to serve.

Talk soon.
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Weekend winding down with phonesex and some red wine

It's Sunday and I know most of you guys have to go to work tomorrow and start the week off. Sunday is the best day to bust a good load before the stress of Monday comes back around. I usually have a lot of tenants to meet on Monday so I usually start my Monday off pretty early. I always like to get a few good orgasms before my Sunday is over. I've been online on niteflirt on and off this weekend. I had to do some shopping, a lunch date and a few hours at the gym to stay tight and sexy. Now it's just me, my laptop, my phone and some red wine.

I'm not a heavy drinker but I love how red wine makes me feel relaxed and sexy after a few glasses. I've already had a few phone sex calls with some of my devoted callers like Dirty Charlie, Hardon Mark, and cuckie boy Chuck. A few of my dirty perverted habitual jack off boys that always entertain me with their pervertness. I like to lay in be with a short night gown on and finger myself or play with something out of my dildo collection. I'm such a dildo whore. I like to use them on myself and sometimes my callers

Racial Fetishism?

Racial fetishism involves fetishizing a person or culture belonging to a race that is not one’s own—therefore it involves racial stereotyping and objectifying those bodies who are stereotyped, and oftentimes their cultural practices.[1][2][3] This can include having strong racial preferences in dating, for example, fetishization of Asian women and men in North America is quite prevalent.[4][5] Racial fetishism has been theorized in academic discourse in relation to Freudian sexual fetishism and Marx’s notion of commodity fetishism. The term has not been largely discussed in academia, however, because Freud’s theories of sexual fetishism have become so influential since the late 19th century.[6] Some writers who have extensively discussed racial fetishism include Homi K. Bhabha, Anne McClintock, and Kobena Mercer.

Racial fetishism is also very prevalent in contemporary popular art and media. For example, Mercer wrote an essay in 1993 called “Reading Racial Fetishism: the Photographs of Robert Mapplethorpe,” where he criticizes Mapplethorpe’s photographs of black men for fetishizing their bodies, for portraying them as sexualized objects rather than human beings.[3] In pop culture, comedian Margaret Cho has been quite vocal about her distaste for Gwen Stefani’s Harajuku Girls--a group of four Japanese girls who silently follow Stefani around on tour and at photo-shoots--because they represent racial stereotypes: fetishized Japanese schoolgirls.[7]

Article came from wikipedia: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Racial_fetishism

I post about this because so many people call me simply because I'm Black. Now, I'm not going to complain about that--BUT, it's entertaining to me that you chose me over 10,000 simply because of the level of melanin in my skin. But if you're looking for a Dominatrix, who can "go there" with racial play, humiliation etc. I'm your Queen!

Ruined by Blackmail

Here we are again... asking to be Ruined by Blackmail. Silly boy, I've told you over and again careful what you ask Mistress for due to the nature of the kink you have it would be so simple to take everything you have and create a world or fetish wonderland for me.

Let's stop off at trust. Do you trust me to keep those kinks of yours a secret? Oh not the normal ones it's the "other" ones that I've created within you. Am I making you nervous by visiting that aspect of your life? Good! Just remember you asked me to.

I'll expose you for being the Shoe Boy, Panty Boy or for being a Cock Sucker in Training or for needing to be owned by a Mistress, I'll expose and Ruin You for so many fetish and kinks all because you've asked me to.  I'll continue to keep you needing more.

Talk Soon
Mistress Peyton

 

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The slutiest cuckold married wife

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