Asian women are often forced into a caricature as either docile or sexually alluring, dutiful or domineering, the “wilting flower” or the “dragon lady,” caught between two contradictory labels imposed by men’s sexual fantasies and normalized through portrayals in film, television, plays and public policy. In the case of the Atlanta shooting on March 16, where six of the eight victims were Asian women, they were murdered because of these stereotypes. The shooter denied that he committed a hate crime and said that he was motivated by his “sex addiction,” but that excuse is rooted in the historic racist and sexist stereotypes imposed on Asian women.
In a society with a growing awareness of racial issues, the fetishization of Asian women is still normalized. From a study analyzing users’ demographic data and activity on the Facebook dating app “Are You Interested,” researchers found that men of all races, with the exception of Asian men, preferred Asian women. Although having a dating preference seems harmless, claiming to be attracted most to a specific race — especially a group as diverse as Asian women — is problematic because that attraction is likely based on harmful stereotypes about that race.
You’re doing a disservice to both yourself and others when you refuse to see people past these preconceived labels. Being seen like a sexual object when I haven’t done anything to be seen like that is generally upsetting.
I bring this up as on Niteflirt, I am expected to either be docile or Dragon Lady. I am neither and both! I am naturally Dominant as my mom is Hawaiian and naturally dominant. No, I don't speak Korean and no, I don't have an accent. I am 3rd generation Korean and I was born and raised in San Francisco, now residing in Seattle.
Look, I get it, my looks are unique. When you are ready to delve deeper than what's on the surface, give me a call. (Be prepared to submit to a woman that likes to be in control)
Find me on Niteflirt here.