Showing posts with label subspace. Show all posts
Showing posts with label subspace. Show all posts

Thursday, May 21, 2015


Free writing this, so bear with me. I chose the name Kami Controls You for a reason. It's pretty simple really. During the day, the decisions fall on you don't they? All day people are asking for your opinion, support, decisions etc. Sometimes even at home, you're expected to be the head of the household, to make judgement calls, handle situations and all day -- it's on YOU do make it happen.

That's where submitting, to give over power, even if only for a while--can be such a release. Subspace is a brilliant floaty feeling, a high if you will, where you can let go. I'd encourage you to try it -- if you're one of those guys where the day to day pressure has to drained at the end of the day.

Give up that power -- for a while.

Nearly all of my callers will attest to the fact that they feel relieved, mentally, physically and spiritually after giving up control.

Definition - What does Total Power Exchange (TPE) mean?

Total power exchange (TPE) is a relationship dynamic that occurs in a BDSM relationship where the dominant partner has total power over the submissive in everything. TPE always applies in sexual situations, but generally also refers to the dominant having power over all other elements of the submissive's life.
TPE is a turn-on for a lot of people because of the level of trust involved. The submissive essentially gives their life away to the dominant. This is also a huge responsibility for the dominant and should not be taken lightly.

TPE can be used in day-to-day activities, or it can be used for just a few hours during play to spice things up. This type of play is not about micromanaging a person's life; it’s about a submissive giving complete trust to the dominant partner and believing that he or she will have the submissive's best interests and pleasure in mind. What can be so hard to understand is that the submissive actually control. That's because in sane, respectful D/s relationship the submissive can stop the play at any time. It's all about the submissive being able to give up control and the dominant being able to exert control in a safe, consensual way.

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Friday, April 25, 2014

Want to go flying with me? I'll take you subspace.

Subspace: Subspace happens in two different situations. There is the first scenario where a submissive physiologically is sent to subspace via impact play. Instead of safe wording, the submissive disconnects, the stress on the body too much and the hormones kick in. This means that the submissive steps out of his or her body and shuts out the experience as his or body fights the hurt with hormones and endorphins kicking in. The other scenario, the psychological is the good stuff. This is where you enter an altered state; one where you disconnect, only in a pleasant way. There is a strong draw to your Dominant. Not necessarily one of sexual arousal, though that may be a part. The first stage is tingly, floaty...warm... Often at this point the submissives start to goad/provoke a Dominant or say things that others may laugh at during the scene without realizing that they are doing so. It is very cute and is most often accompanied by giggles and snorts of derision. The next level goes deeper, where the ditzy feelings begin. Forgetting commands, looking spacey, intoxicated feelings; speaking slows if not stops and the submissive is reliant on the Dominant to monitor them. The final section is primal. Moaning, grunting, multiple orgasms (sometimes without touching), hypersensitivity to tactile and other forms of sensory input.... and being completely out of it. But then...the body drops from the high...and aftercare from your Dominant begins. Subspace is a warm and fuzzy place if you are safe with your dominant. You will find that once you experience it, the longing to experience it again will be something you will have to control. Let's go...I'm booking flights :) DJ
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